I have a 20 year difference with the woman I love. Dan, this totally works for people. I am stating a not-super-serious personal opinion. I was married to someone my age. And we all know how that worked out. I am rooting for all of us. Thank you for taking a minute to say hi.
I read this twice. And I find a lot of it filled with an immature view of adult relationships sorry, not meaning to be critical, merely my opinion. I also take offense to the Disney Princess view of women. Not every girl or woman is looking to con a member of the oppposite sex. Nor to I think every young man or guy is out there trolling, looking to get laid.
Of course, we want it in return too. My spouse is more than 5 years older than me. I never considered our age difference.
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He was the person I fell in love with. When I was 21 years old. And we began building a life together. A journey that continues much more than a decade later.
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Sure there are boundaries that should not be crossed. They go without saying. But relationships are based on a measure of respect and love. Not a math equation comprised using an age-based formula. This is totally me. On this subject only.
I heard a story. I reacted as I did. And I thought it was worth discussing. Men take a long time to mature…some never seem to. Like Liked by 1 person. You know who hates this post the most, Matt? I HAVE been And 20 year olds? We are not made for one another. Appreciate you reading and firing off this note. My comment was tongue-in-cheek… But perspective is everything, Matt.
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I am as far from your age as you are from What I know that you doubt is that those two age spreads are not equal. And their relationships are successful in spite of what the rest of us might think of them. By that, I mean. Those differences between and year-olds illustrate the difference in a ridiculous, overstatement sort of way why I feel how I feel.
All that said, I really am having more fun with this topic than I am trying to argue a particular point of view. Without question, there will always be exceptions that prove anything can work with the right people. LOL, men are a bit like cheese, sometimes the best ones need to age a bit before they can release their full flavor. I married my childrens father.
He is 11 years older than me. We never had any problems at all. I also had a relationship once with a man who was 17 years older. It was the environment around us. See, I love older men. The love of my life, outside of my husband, was in fact 15 years older than me. The older you get, the less difference 15 years makes. Matt, how this really comes off? Is that you have some sour grapes against older, more successful men who are able to obtain women in your age range. The truth is, women ARE attracted to successful men. It gives us a feeling of safety and stability.
So get out there and create that kind of wealth for yourself! If anyone can do it, you can! Age really comes down to personal taste and people are allowed to like whoever they want. You can either believe me when I tell you the thought never entered my mind, or not.
I have not had any experiences like that, personally. And I also believe more strongly than ever that wealth while nice! On a very personal level?
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I like to be liked. And thus far, have never found myself in a situation where I was trying really hard to date someone and they chose someone else for any reason, let alone older-man wealth. I suppose I zeroed in on that because you made several sarcastic references to these men in relation to what they have to offer. But I stand corrected. Older men have been dating younger women since the beginning of time.
And for me, it just seems normal. Because I like the security of an older man. It was fantastic for me. I met an amazing man who I plan to spend the rest of my life with on OkCupid. When I probed further, I was floored to discover that his idea of older women was actually women who were just two years his senior. Thankfully the discussion we had was over the phone because my mouth truly was agape.
However, as more and more boomers maintain good health and physiques, I believe choosing a younger partner often comes down to vanity. That is — a youthful, physically more desirable person like they think they are themselves. If he chose women 15 years younger than him as my acquaintance did , it would be an obvious red flag to me.
Another red flag, however less obvious, was if his criteria stopped short of his own age. It made me question what kind of value he put on women. After all, could a few years older really make a woman less worthy? Like Liked by 2 people. More and more people decide not to have children.
I personally find it fabulous and a sure sign of true love when age is not a barrier in a relationship. One can only be jealous that you look so young! I do feel a big age difference can be challenging, though bigger than with you and your husbands. At the same time all relationships have its difficulties and we make our own choices. I agree on the socialising part. The whole point in being in a relationship with the HUGE age difference is understanding and laying the ground rules from the start.
Oh sure, I think people should definitely socialize separately too. This might be a rarity…i agree with you…its a double standard a man dates a girl half is age and he still has it but a woman dating half her age???? You are commenting using your WordPress. You are commenting using your Twitter account. You are commenting using your Facebook account.
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